“I never teach my pupils, I only attempt to provide the conditions in which they can learn.” ~ Albert Einstein
When it comes to choosing a mentor or life coach it’s definitely not a one size fits all scenario. What’s right for your spouse or best friend may not be a good fit for you. What do you want and need from a mentorship experience?
If you don’t know what you want to accomplish, the time you spend with your mentor will not be as meaningful. So mindfully think about your life. What is the one area of your life you’d like to improve right now? What do you want to change?
There are fundamentally five areas of life to consider when you’re trying to pinpoint who will be the best life coach or mentor for you:
- Relationships and Intimacy
- Life Purpose, Personal Growth and Spirituality
- Goal Setting, Creativity, and Motivation
- Career Planning & Development and Life Balance
- Lifestyle Improvement, Self-Care, and Stress Management
After you identify which area of life you want to grow in, you’ll be able to narrow down what you specifically want to achieve. Then you’ll be ready to seek out a mentor (or several mentors if you want to work on a few areas at once, such as a fitness expert and a business coach) who can help you formulate a sensible plan to help you reach your goals.
But how do you know if a mentor is right for you? Look for a life coach with the following seven consistent characteristics. Consider whether he or she…
1. is available to talk with you on a regular basis so that you can learn, grow and become a better person. Consistency is very important!
2. has qualities and values you admire and want to reflect in your own life.
3. has successfully traveled the road you want to go down and has the patience and skills to show you how to do it too.
4. has a depth of knowledge and wisdom in areas you lack and is able to give valuable advice.
5. will support you as he encourages you to reach for higher goals, to take the next step and to push yourself in ways you never thought possible.
6. will push you harder and keep you going by asking the hard questions that challenge you to come up with hidden answers.
7. will help you dig deep and pull out more of the person you’re meant to be as you reach your full potential.
Which of the above characteristics best fits the place where you are at right now? If you’re in a very fragile place, you may need more nurturing rather than someone pushing you hard. Or if you’re ready to grow but are holding back because of fear, you may need that extra push right now.
When you find the mentor who is right for you, approach your mentoring relationship with an attitude of openness to reveal yourself and willingness to receive feedback. And don’t forget this is a give and take relationship. You have value to share with your mentor as well. As your relationship grows, you very well may have found a best friend for life.
I’m thrilled to work with women in private coaching and group coaching sessions who are ready to expand their ability to consistently make choices that contribute to personal happiness and that of others. If you are ready to partner with me to help you reach your goals, please contact me and let’s talk.