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Category: Life Skills

Learn how to focus on the soft skills, the people skills like good communication, effective leadership, positive motivation, and managing your emotions.

Regain Control by Listening to Your Body: How Food Affects Your Mood

how food affects your mood

For many high-achieving women, food isn’t just about nourishment. It’s about regulating your mood, energy, and performance. So there are many elements to consider when we’re looking at how food affects your mood.

You may eat between meetings. Or skip meals without noticing. You reach for something quick when your energy dips. At the end of the day,  you unwind with something comforting, not because you’re hungry, but because your body is asking for relief.

And often, the conversation around food gets reduced to discipline. What you should eat. What you shouldn’t. What’s “good” and what’s “bad.” But that framework misses something essential. Your relationship with food isn’t just behavioral. It’s somatic. It lives in your nervous system.

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How to Calm Your Mind by Coming Back to Your Body

Learn how to CALM your mind by using my 4-Step C.A.L.M. Process. Even in times of great stress, practicing it will help you achieve calm and peace more quickly.

If you’re like many of the women I work with, you don’t struggle because you don’t know how to calm your mind. You struggle in the moment when your body takes over.

Your chest tightens. Your jaw clenches. Thoughts accelerate. A conversation shifts, a comment lands wrong, pressure builds, and suddenly you’re no longer responding. You’re reacting.

And in that moment, it doesn’t matter how self-aware, intelligent, or practiced you are.

Your nervous system has already made the call. This is the piece that often gets missed in conversations about “how to calm your mind.” Because the mind isn’t actually where the spiral begins.

It begins in the body.

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The Professional and The Lake: It Tests Your Presence of Mind AND Body

Paddle-boarding on the lake teaches us a lot about presence of mind and body.Today, I’m doing something new and different. I’m not writing to teach or “showcase my expertise” as the marketing gurus claim we ought to always be doing. Today I’m writing for the pure joy of writing about something I love. (It’s only fair, since I’ve been encouraging you to do things just for the fun of it.) I’m being vulnerable and revealing a part of myself that few people ever get to see. 

I love the warm days of spring. There’s a beguiling quality of afternoon light, the air carrying just enough softness to make you look up from whatever you’re doing and feel it. And immediately, almost involuntarily, I think of the lake.

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Rethinking Self Esteem in Women: Why They Still Feel “Not Enough”

“By today’s definition, self-esteem is a noun, a thing. I am purposefully removing the hyphen, so that self esteem in women becomes the action it deserves to be — we women actively valuing ourselves, not only what we achieve, but more importantly who we are being.” ~ Maria Connolly

Self esteem in women  doesn’t always look like insecurity.Self esteem in women doesn’t always look like insecurity. In fact, it often hides behind impressive résumés, packed calendars, and relentless competence. Many high-achieving women have learned how to succeed in nearly every area of life, yet still carry an underlying feeling that we must constantly prove our value. The question isn’t whether we’re capable. The question is why our worth still feels conditional.

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The Auto-Accommodating Reflex: How It Shows Up Even When You’re Confident

Auto-accommodating is an unconscious, compulsive habit of managing, fixing, or adjusting to the emotions and needs of people around you to avoid conflict or ensure your own safety and peace.

Auto-accommodating is an unconscious, compulsive habit of managing, fixing, or adjusting to the emotions and needs of people around you to avoid conflict or ensure your own safety and peace.I’ve discovered during the past 20 years… something about brilliant, professional women. There’s a pattern that quietly follows these capable, thoughtful women through their lives.

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