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Category: Self-Leadership Skills

Motivation vs Self-discipline: Don’t Ask, “Which is Better?” Here’s Why You Need Both!

The life you’ll enjoy most is the life you create for yourself. Yes, there’s a trend of people wanting life to be handed to them or thinking the world owes them, but you and I know that attitude doesn’t bring satisfaction or self-fulfillment. We not only need the desire (Motivation) but we need the baby steps forward (Self-discipline) to make life changes happen. Let me say this again… get rid of the motivation vs self-discipline mentality and adopt the motivation AND self-discipline mindset. This puts us in control of our lives. Amazing things happen when we recognize that we’re in the driver’s seat, as Robert Greene noted, 

“It is time to reverse this prejudice against conscious effort and to see the powers we gain through practice and discipline as eminently inspiring and even miraculous.” 

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Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotions & You’ll Make Emotional Barriers Disappear

When you allow yourself to feel your emotions, you’ll make emotional roadblocks disappear and feel safe and confident as the real you becomes visible.“You’re so emotional!” That’s what my client, Janine, heard throughout her early years. And you know it wasn’t said as a compliment, but rather as a reprimand. From this and other negative judgments, Janine learned that it’s not good to allow yourself to feel your emotions. Her caregivers taught her that some emotions were “unacceptable”. 

To gain approval and protect herself from being hurt, she started bottling up her feelings. Not only did she become good at hiding her emotions from others, she began to hide them from herself… to the point where she didn’t know what she liked or even who she was anymore!

Have you ever experienced anything like Janine? When you were sad were you told, “Oh, don’t be such a baby!” or when you were angry, did they say, “That’s so ugly. No one is going to like you, if you keep that up little Missy.”

We react strongly to emotions we judge as negative. Emotions like grief, sadness, anger, shame, and fear make us uncomfortable and afraid. When we see them in others, it’s unpleasant, so we try to make them go away.

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Value Your Time More = Value Yourself More. It’s the Live Big Mindset!

How you value your time reveals the kind of value you place on yourself and if you haven't been honoring your time enough, here are 10 ways to improve. Time is the most precious resource we will ever possess, yet we tend to take it for granted. How you use it reflects not only how much you value your time, but it also reveals your priorities, values, and ultimately, how much you value yourself. 

Why do we sometimes squander the invaluable asset of time?  What are some practical strategies to honor time and, by extension, ourselves? And how can the Live Big Mindset help? You’ll find answers to these questions and more within this article…

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Overcoming Procrastination with Mindfulness in 3 Simple, Easy Steps

Some days it feels like you’re drowning, because you want to do a task but you can’t get started. Mindfully practicing the following steps to overcoming procrastination will change your life.

Some days it feels like you’re drowning. You know you want to do something, but you can’t get started. You feel too overwhelmed. What makes us feel like that? 

It’s not a flaw in your character. It’s a chemical process in your brain! Neuroscience explains why we procrastinate. And when you understand why, then you can find ways of naturally working with your brain chemistry. 

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How to Cultivate Inner Goodness — The Missing Value We Absolutely Need

Cultivating inner goodness as one of our core values makes us capable of living more meaningfully and spreading goodness outwardly to our community. What I love about my community of people is that you want to make a difference, living a meaningful life that’s filled with purpose. To do that we focus on one of the most important elements to fulfilling your potential — being wholly connected with your core values. Over time you’ll find that you refine and re-define what your core values are. In youth, you may focus on ambition. In later years, you may focus on resilience. In my list of core values, I left out one that I believe we need now more than ever: cultivating inner goodness.  

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