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How to Improve Your Feeling of Well-being — P.E.R.M.A. Model for Happiness

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Health and Wellness, Life Skills, Self-Leadership Skills, Stepping Forward.

Are you in the pursuit of happiness? Or are you waiting for it to come to you? “The pursuit of happiness” is one of our unalienable rights, according to the U. S. Declaration of Independence. Isn’t that interesting? They focused on the process of searching for happiness, not happiness itself. Think about that deeply, because it will begin to profoundly change you.

If you want to improve your feeling of well-being, it’s important to make the mental shift away from the idea that “I’ll be happy when this thing happens”. Because when you get that thing, it’s not the key to lasting happiness. No, life shifts again and you want more or something different. The key to feeling happy isn’t simply obtaining your desires. The key is finding delight in the whole process of living!

I Am So Disappointed In Myself — What Can I Do About It?

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Life Skills, Self-Leadership Skills, Stepping Forward.

“I swore I would do better, Maria. I want to do better! But every time I get hurt or stressed out, I can’t help myself. I reach for ________ ( Fill in the blank with chocolate, ice cream, cigarette, alcoholic drink, TV clicker — all the things we distract ourselves with.) I feel so disappointed in myself!” Can you relate to my client’s heartfelt plea? What do YOU do when the person you disappoint is you? And more to the point, what healthy things can you do instead?

Since we’re our own worst critics, we tend to turn off compassion and turn on self-disgust when we disappoint ourselves. If that’s your default setting, know that you are not alone. Neither are you locked into always responding that way.

Afraid of Disappointing Others? This Insight Will Liberate You!

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Healthy Relationships, Stepping Forward.

We’ve all experienced it — that crushing, heart-wrenching, stomach-churning, bitter sensation when someone disappoints us. Perhaps the pain is even worse when it’s you disappointing others because you’re also disappointing yourself.

When we intensely want something we think about it, dream about it, and make detailed plans for it until we can taste it and see it like it’s already happened. And when these hopes and expectations go unfulfilled, that disappointment makes us bereft, drained and deflated. We feel like such a failure.

It’s no wonder we do our best to avoid putting this emotional pain upon ourselves or others. Too often we make unwise decisions or hold back from stepping forward because we’re driven by this thought —“I don’t want to disappoint anyone.”

Build Meaningful Relationships That Nourish You & Help You Succeed In Life

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Healthy Relationships, Stepping Forward.

Do you want to feel powerful and successful in your life? Then build meaningful relationships with others who are committed to the same goals. If you want to thrive, surround yourself with people who are better at whatever you aspire to do! They can give you advice, guidance, and practical examples for living the kind of life and choices you want.

People who know and care about you are your greatest teachers. They’re your role models and your most truthful mirrors. They’ll be the ones you turn to when you’re confused, need help, and feel emotionally fragile. These “low” times will occur in your life, and if you only have “fair-weather friends” the low times will be hard to take.

You are only as strong as your support network. And as Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

How To Overcome Obstacles In Life — Managing Setbacks With Ease

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Change Your Life, Self-Leadership Skills, Stepping Forward.

Under the best circumstances, change doesn’t come easily. Some people say it takes 21 days to create a new habit. However, one study shows that on average it takes up to 66 days. Some people can create a new habit in as little as 18 days, while others take 254 days! What do we learn from this? Don’t count the days. Be convinced that the new habit is what you want and practice it until it becomes a part of who you are. Because let’s face it, life isn’t ideal. Much of the time we’re overcoming obstacles as we make these changes.

How about you? Do your goals and intentions fade after the first setback? How many challenges can you handle before you give up?

Category: Stepping Forward

How to Improve Your Feeling of Well-being — P.E.R.M.A. Model for Happiness

I Am So Disappointed In Myself — What Can I Do About It?

Afraid of Disappointing Others? This Insight Will Liberate You!

Build Meaningful Relationships That Nourish You & Help You Succeed In Life

How To Overcome Obstacles In Life — Managing Setbacks With Ease

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