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Ten Centering Techniques to Live an Embodied Life

Wisdom from ancient Greek philosopher Plutarch

Wisdom from ancient Greek philosopher Plutarch

We live in a world so full of noise and hurried activities, which causes us to quickly lose touch with who we are now and who we want to become. We get so busy with the doing of life that we forget about the being in life. We might have every intention of being mindful of our inner experience, but it’s difficult with the daily distractions that vie for our attention.

A very successful approach to achieving a lasting peace and calm is to live an embodied life. What does that mean and how can YOU achieve it?

Living an embodied life refers to creating an inner peace and calm through learning to recognize and embrace your inner experience in an honest and curiosity-filled way. It means you’re aware of your total mind/body/spirit connection and you do things daily to nurture it.

Knowing what to do and how to do it are two different things. So I’d like to share with you some daily practices that will help keep you centered. As you read through the following list, think about how you can create a daily routine of intentionally connecting with each one of these components in your life.

Ten Relaxation Techniques to Reduce Stress and Center Yourself:

1. Breath. Throughout the day, take five to ten slow breaths that fully expand your lungs. Conscious breathing is the key to connecting body and mind and bringing the energy of mindfulness into each moment of your life. Focus especially on the exhale to let go of subtle tension in your body. You’ll immediately feel calmer and more energized.

2. Heart. Tap into your inner strength by connecting with your emotional and spiritual intelligence. In a non-judgmental, compassionate way be present with how you’re feeling. Develop emotional tolerance by the simple act of observing the experience instead of always engaging in it. You’ll release the tension that prolongs the emotion so that it simply fades away.

3. Body. Consciously focus, through your breathing, on the sensations you’re body is feeling. Connect your breathing to the feelings in your neck, shoulders, hands, and stomach as you remain in the moment rather than trying to escape.

4. Inner world through mindfulness. Create awareness in all of your activities…breathing, eating, walking, cleaning the house, visiting with friends, loving… Make a point of doing them with more awareness than usual. Remember that the point in being mindful is not to think about your experience but simply to notice it.

5. The present moment. Be fully present in the moment. No matter how out-of-control your day is, no matter how stressful your life becomes, the act of being present can become an instant sanctuary. When you are completely present, the external forces are no longer a problem, because there is only you and that external force, in this moment, and not a million other things you need to worry about.

6. Radically accepting what is. Fighting against the reality of what is will drain you of your energy. Accept the moment for what it is and let go of any upset as you figure out how to relate to your present.

7. Compassion toward others. See through the words and actions without judgment and compassionately look for the intentions and motivations, giving the other person the benefit of the doubt that they want peacefulness too.

8. Self-compassion – developing a compassionate mind focus. Cultivate the ability to generate feelings of self-reassurance, warmth and self-soothing that can act as an antidote to the sense of inner loneliness, threat and despair. Learn to treat yourself and talk to yourself as you would a beloved best friend.

9. Deep relaxation. There are various relaxation techniques such as meditation, bio-feedback, visualization and imagery, exercise such as Yoga, music therapy, going for walks, bubble baths and so much more. By trial and error you will find the one that works for you.

10. Body awareness. The Feldenkrais Method (which I use in Somatic Coaching) is a powerful tool using gentle movement and directed attention to increase flexibility, coordination and range of motion. As your physical body rediscovers its innate capacity for graceful, efficient movement, your nervous system is trained to find new pathways around areas of damage and or disconnection, resulting in a greater mind/body connection.

Each of these techniques can help you center yourself. Centering is one of the easiest and most useful forms of embodiment practice. It’s especially helpful in the midst of strong emotional states such as anger, frustration or anxiety. It is often used by athletes, public speakers, actors, and anyone who wants to feel more stable and prepared before a potentially stressful event.

In order to have these skills available during hard times we need to practice daily, when we feel resourceful and safe, in order to develop unconscious competence. Persistence is an important aspect of cultivating a sustainable centering routine. Purposefully centering yourself many times throughout the day, even when you’re not feeling particularly emotional or in need of centering, will help to deepen your practice.

Would you like a guide in this journey? Are you interested in exploring somatic awareness? I’m here to help you. Contact me and together we’ll tailor a program that works for you.

Somatic Coaching will Unlock Your Potential

somatic coaching will unlock your business and personal potential“When you know what you are doing, then you can do what you want.” ~ Moshe Feldenkrais

Being able to unlock your potential is vital for living a full, rich life as an individual and as a business professional. That’s why the slogan, “Be all that you can be” is so appealing. We know deep inside that we can be and do better.

However, when you unlock something, you often don’t know exactly what you’re going to find. It might be a pleasant surprise or it might even be a little bit frightening. The same is true when you unlock your potential, because sometimes you have to dig deep to find out why you’ve kept your potential locked up.

A good way to assess your potential and how it’s being held back is to look at the way you communicate with yourself and others. The words you speak are not the only way you communicate. Your tone of voice, speech patterns, facial expressions, hand gestures, body positioning, and eye contact all deliver a message. And if you’re not in total alignment, your words may say one thing, but your body says another.

What do I mean? Take for example the stress that comes from confrontational situations. Western medicine has finally recognized that the way your mind reacts to stress will change your posture and physical health. Your shoulders will draw up toward your ears, your back and neck muscles contract and shorten, your jaw tightens, your teeth clench, your blood pressure rises, you experience pain and so on.

Now think about the reverse of this, how your body posture affects your mood and emotions. Perhaps you need to express how you feel to someone you feel will be less than receptive. Your body is rigid; perhaps you have slightly hunched shoulders. You eyes are downcast, your hands clench and your face shows apprehension. Does this body posturing make you feel more confident? Hardly. Will you be able to express yourself calmly or will it end up in sharp words being spoken?

Somatic Coaching will unlock your potential for precise, non-verbal communication, flexibility and overall performance. With it you can…

  • Create a more powerful appearance.
  • Develop more confidence in your voice and body.
  • Move more elegantly and with more self-confidence.
  • Use your own body language more effectively.
  • Be more at ease with yourself.
  • Improve your perception of other people’s non-verbal communication.
  • Build deeper rapport with colleagues, clients, friends and family.
  • Expand your social competence.
  • Take better care of yourself.
  • Construct a process of personal feedback that improves your self-image.

 Why does Somatic Coaching work? While traditional, personal-development coaching often focuses on the mind and/or emotions, somatic coaching creates a much higher awareness of the whole body/mind impact on your life. Somatic comes from the Greek root word “soma”, which means “the living body in its wholeness.” The body, mind, emotions and spirit integrally influence each other constantly, even when we’re not aware of it. The physical body is constantly shaping and altering your thinking, your moods and your behavior.

Somatic coaching gives you the skills to make subtle shifts in how you use your body as you create mindfulness and awareness that exponentially increases your ability to influence, listen, be resilient, manage stress, maintain energy and be more effective. Rather than numbing yourself to uncomfortable circumstances and powering through them, you can learn to mindfully choose to respond in a way that leaves you feeling whole and at peace.

If you’re ready to step up and benefit from personal coaching services, I assure you that Somatic Coaching will unlock your potential as we explore new processes or refine old skills to develop optimal strategies for everyday success. Contact me and together we will expand your ability to consistently make choices that contribute to your happiness and that of those around you.

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