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How Changing Your Identity Makes Desired Behaviors & Attitudes Stick

Changing your identity — changing how you perceive yourself — is key to lasting change that transforms your life, because it reveals who you really are.“One of the main reasons we don’t stick with habit changes is that we don’t tend to the thoughts, beliefs, and words that go along with these actions we so want to change.” ~ Jen Sincero, Author of You Are a Badass

“Little girl, who do you want to be when you grow up?” Often we’re left in no doubt. Little Amy wears her version of nursing scrubs and says, “I’m nurse Amy. You need a shot.” She becomes the person she wants to be by dressing up, play-acting the role, and identifying with stories about nursing. We, also, have this powerful talent for changing our identity, if we know how to reawaken and unleash it. Are you ready to use this super power to  change your life?

Especially now, people are in a transition state. There are things we’re learning about ourselves during the pandemic. Maybe you liked working from home and having more flexibility, but now your boss wants you back in the office 40 hours a week. Are you ready to make the leap into a new career to make that happen?

We often have an idea of what we want to do or who we want to be. We’re told that the way to success is to take new steps to ’start’ or ’try’. However, to change your life and make it stick, do something different! What is it? 

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Why Coaching Works — Timeless Wisdom for Modern Problems

When someone asked me why coaching works, I used ancient wisdom to explain how somatic coaching involving body, mind and spirit, helps us heal and excel.It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change. ~ Charles Darwin

“A coach can’t change you or do the work for you. So what good can a coach do? Isn’t it just an admission that there’s something wrong with you, that you aren’t smart enough, tough enough to change? Wouldn’t therapy be a better option?” These are legitimate concerns that someone recently expressed to me. She wasn’t sure how or why coaching works. 

I was happy to explain why coaching works. The traditional thought is that therapy is for healing and coaching is for achieving excellence. However, I believe that drawing a line between the two creates a barrier to progress, because we are connected beings. My approach as a trained therapist and coach is to merge both disciplines into practical steps each individual can use to make progress at their own pace. This has worked extremely well for my clients.

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Take Charge of Your Life and Make this the Best Year Yet

Take charge of your life and make 2022 the best year ever“Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.” ~ Melody Beattie

Do you feel like you’re barely keeping up? That you’re not making any progress forward? It can be discouraging if  past attempts at changing something in your life have failed. If you’re wondering  how you can take charge of your life, this post is for you…

To begin with, does your usual list of New Year’s Resolutions look something like the following?

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Feel Hopeless? Keep Your Sanity By Doing One Real Thing Daily

Especially, in this digital age, we can easily lose our sense of what’s real and important. Keep your sanity by making time for the things that fill you up. “The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” ~ Barack Obama

If you want to keep your sanity, make sure you do one real thing every day. That’s what the character Jethro Gibbs of NCIS and all great leaders teach us. When Gibbs needs to decompress and become grounded, he turns to woodworking in his basement. Think about it…Winston Churchill had his painting, J.F.K. went sailing with his family, Condoleezza Rice loves golfing, Maya Angelou danced, and Angela Merkel loves to hike. Do you see a pattern? Effective leaders make time to do something real, some sort of physical activity that makes them feel their bodies and minds connected within themselves and with the earth, to be grounded.

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Setting Personal Boundaries – 5 Steps that Build Strong and Supportive Relationships

Setting personal boundaries takes courage, but in the long run, you’ll be happier and the people in your life will love, respect and appreciate you more.“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.” ~ Brené Brown

”If I didn’t do it, it wouldn’t get done!” Have you ever felt like that? It seems like most of the work falls on your shoulders when you have family gatherings. Relationships where you’re the one who does all the giving, while others do all the taking, are exhausting. How can you break this cycle? The answer lies in understanding the importance, and power, of setting personal boundaries. 

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