Resolve Identity Lag: Saying Yes to the Job Before Saying Yes to the Identity
We often say yes to a new role, then work out how to grow into the new identity it requires of us. I see this identity lag so often in high-achieving women like Jessica, one of my clients. (Not her real name.)
She recently stepped into a leadership role she’d been working toward for years. Her title was official, her responsibilities had expanded, and colleagues were looking to her for direction.
Yet in meetings, she found herself second-guessing her decisions and looking to others for reassurance. She had the experience and know-how to lead, but she hadn't fully learned to trust her own authority. She found herself doing things the way she had done them previously, even though the role asked something different of her.
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You can be highly accomplished and still not feel fully at home in your own authority. On the other hand, when you’re rooted in origins, you know who you are and where you stand. Let’s explore what this means and how it works in practical terms…
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We often think of our origin as the opening chapter of our story. Where we grew up. What our families were like. The experiences that shaped us. The people and places that formed our earliest understanding of ourselves and the world.