Category: Self-Leadership Skills

Deepen Your Emotional Maturity & Trust Your Feelings When Under Stress

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Controlling Stress, Embodied Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Leadership Skills.

“Who we are is how we lead. We can either lead from heart or we can lead from hurt.” ~ Brené Brown

Often people come to me to bounce off life experiences — to either feel validated or get a reality check. They’ll say something like, “Maria, does this seem right to you? Is it okay to feel what I’m feeling?” I really appreciate being in their life this way. And I love seeing how their mindfulness deepens and adds richness to their emotional maturity over time.

Being mindfully aware of how we feel in our emotions and in our body and then making intentional choices in response is how we manifest emotional maturity. We own our feelings and the path we choose, without complaining, blaming, or making excuses.

This process of emotional growth never ends, because you experience new situations and new feelings. And your current well-being plays a huge part — what you can handle one day may seem overwhelming when you’re overly tired, undernourished or dehydrated.

Develop Somatic Intelligence to Reconnect with Your Body and Unlock Your Potential

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Mindfulness, Self-Leadership Skills, Somatic Coaching, The Feldenkrais Method®.

“There’s a difference between intellect and intelligence. Noise propagates the former, silence the later. Intellect is inherited, intelligence is inherent.” ~ Drew Gerald

When I asked my friend how she was feeling, she replied, “Just fine!” Her words sounded so upbeat. But her body was saying something different. Dark, clouded eyes were downcast; mouth tense; shoulders rolled forward, almost as if they were curving over to protect her heart; hands clenching. Because of years of developing sensory acuity, I could tell she really thought everything was okay, but the dissonance with her body told another story.

As I gently inquired further, her story emerged. As she spoke, a softening of her body occurred. By the end of our lunch together, she exclaimed, “I feel so much better. I didn’t know that was bothering me so much!”

You can probably relate. Your body often knows things long before your mind catches up. It remembers today’s experiences AND all of your past experiences.

However, we’ve learned to doubt our body wisdom, to second guess ourselves, to ignore the messages that the body is sending. We spend so much time treating the body as a separate entity apart from thoughts and feelings that we create conflict and disharmony within ourselves.

Finding Inner Peace to Weather the Storms of Change Raging Around Us

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Controlling Stress, Self-Leadership Skills.

“Happiness is the new rich.

Inner peace is the new success

Health is the new wealth

Kindness is the new cool.”

Anonymous

Do you ever read or hear something that speaks to you deeply? It happened again to me recently and I wish to share it with you in the hopes that it brings you as much inner peace, softness and joy as it did for me. I’m sure you’ll agree that now, more than ever, finding inner peace is something we can all use.

Because we live in such strange and harsh times, we do well to seek solace from within. When the world around us is not a soft and nourishing place, we must be able to rely on our own inner resources of gentleness, kindness, equanimity and peace.

Crisis and Trauma: When the Present Collides with the Past

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Emotional Intelligence, Self-Leadership Skills.

On May 6th, 1976 right around 9pm the ground began to shake. I lived in northern Italy and I was six and a half. I was at home with my 3 year old brother and my grandma. My parents were on their way home from work.

The building we lived in shook for what felt like an eternity. I didn’t know what an earthquake was but I knew that houses were not supposed to shake. Because of her age, my grandma froze and the three of us huddled in the dark kitchen, until my father came to get us.

Compassionate Listening Heals Those Who Speak and Who Listen

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Healthy Relationships, Self-Leadership Skills.

“Listening is about being present, not just about being quiet.” ~ Krista Tippett

After the Alameda fire devastated our beautiful Rogue Valley on September 8^th, I wanted to help beyond Go-Fund-Me and food/clothing donations. My search was rewarded when I attended a training on compassionate listening organized by the Hearth Community in Ashland. It reaffirmed to me the intense and healing power in the act of compassionate listening, when we engage both our ears and our hearts.

During the training we listened to each other – we got to bring to life all of our emotions in a healing circle. As each person spoke, we all felt safer and stronger as a community. That’s the power of gathering together for compassionate listening.

As I go through each day now, I listen for the many stories about what happened on September 8. One in particular stands out to me, and I’d love to share her story with you —

Category: Self-Leadership Skills

Deepen Your Emotional Maturity & Trust Your Feelings When Under Stress

Develop Somatic Intelligence to Reconnect with Your Body and Unlock Your Potential

Finding Inner Peace to Weather the Storms of Change Raging Around Us

Crisis and Trauma: When the Present Collides with the Past

Compassionate Listening Heals Those Who Speak and Who Listen

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