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Are You Showing Up Authentically? Be Proud, Be Courageous, Be You!

A practice of showing up authentically means eliminating what’s artificial in your life and choosing practices that fuel the person you truly wish to be.“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let out true selves be seen.” ~ Brene Brown

Being authentic is an overused buzz phrase today, yet I think it still has value, because when it comes to showing up authentically, don’t you find that there are parts of yourself that you hide from others, perhaps even from yourself? And when you’re called on to do something out of your comfort zone, do you say, “I can’t,” when you really can? Or perhaps you promise you can, when you know you won’t. 

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Do You Know How to Engage the Power of Pause? It’s Transformational!

The Power of Pause might seem insignificant, but don’t let it fool you. Over time it shifts the way your brain functions, changing how you act and speak. “It’s a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately filling up space.” ~ Pema Chodron

Shelly, a client, is a person of action. Her brain is constantly whirling, and she always has something to say, which often causes her to superficially listen to others. And while she gets a lot done personally, she tends to either micromanage or shift between projects so fast it makes her team scratch their heads wondering what’s going on. To bring more balance to her life, together we worked out that she needed to engage The Power Of Pause to be more mindfully aware and present, thereby keeping her team in step with her. As a result, now they’re working cohesively and are accomplishing the goals they’ve set for themselves. 

Could you benefit from using The Power Of Pause more often? Well, if you feel stressed (Who doesn’t?) or have said or done something you regret, then the answer is “Yes!” I think we all feel better when we mindfully learn to use this superpower more often. 

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Embody Love — Where the Body Is the Mind and Heart Will Follow

To embody love means to be mindfully loving being no matter what happens, letting the unique sensations of your body inform you of your true emotions.“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”  ~ C.G. Jung

He couldn’t keep his eyes off of her. · She loved everything about her…the softness of her skin…and when she smiled…she was over the moon! · He could get lost in his eyes for hours, as they talked about nothing and everything into the wee hours of the morning. · He couldn’t stop thinking about her. She was his life. She was The One.

Love is an all-encompassing emotion. It’s not just a matter of the heart. Science shows that the biology of love is largely directed by chemicals released in the brain that trigger responses throughout the body. Sweaty palms, the wildly beating heart, the breathlessness of attraction are responses to the innate need to connect and keep the genetic line flowing. You can’t separate any part of your body from the sensation of love — your entire body is involved. The deepest connections occur when you embody love.

Forgetting this fundamental human state is the reason relationships come apart. When our mind begins to disconnect, so our body follows, sending signals of rejection or lack of interest. We may even be doing this unconsciously, but a partner can read it in our bodies, long before our brains catch up.

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How to Relate WITH Others — Healthy Love Relationships Master This Skill

Learning how to relate with others becomes easier when you follow these steps to forming,maintaining and enjoying a long-lasting love relationship.Like peanut butter and jelly or boots and sweaters, some things naturally go together. When you met the love of your life, you just knew the two of you belonged together. You wanted it to last forever. Yet in the day-to-day realities of life, the spark and sparkle may have grown a little dim, maybe you don’t think you’ll ever get the luster back again. This is when fortifying your skills on how to relate with others can help.

Did you notice I put the emphasis on relating with not relating to? Relating to others puts the emphasis on you in relation to them. Relating with others puts the emphasis on them.

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The Best Conflict Resolution Techniques Are Based on Love

Does it surprise you that the best conflict resolution techniques are based on LOVE? At the office or at home, you don’t have to be tough to be heard.“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” ~ Thomas Merton

At sea, mutiny can endanger lives because while fighting, the sailors are distracted from their destination. They can’t see the storm on the horizon, the pirate ship approaching, or the iceberg beneath the surface. The ship, and all lives upon it, could be lost if conflict resolution techniques and a cohesive team spirit aren’t maintained. When your life depends on those around you, you long for a strong bond of respect and trust and even better, one of love.

Since we’re taught to question authority, to stand up for our rights, to be in control of our own destinies, maintaining a balance between self-determination and interdependence can be hard. Being in control isn’t what makes conflict resolution techniques work. Fighting for control is counterproductive. It distracts you from what’s really important.

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