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I Am So Disappointed In Myself — What Can I Do About It?

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Life Skills, Self-Leadership Skills, Stepping Forward.

“I swore I would do better, Maria. I want to do better! But every time I get hurt or stressed out, I can’t help myself. I reach for ________ ( Fill in the blank with chocolate, ice cream, cigarette, alcoholic drink, TV clicker — all the things we distract ourselves with.) I feel so disappointed in myself!” Can you relate to my client’s heartfelt plea? What do YOU do when the person you disappoint is you? And more to the point, what healthy things can you do instead?

Since we’re our own worst critics, we tend to turn off compassion and turn on self-disgust when we disappoint ourselves. If that’s your default setting, know that you are not alone. Neither are you locked into always responding that way.

The Unexpected Benefits of Disappointment You Can Use to Your Advantage

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Emotional Intelligence, Fearless Mindset, Handling Change.

Disappointment is a difficult emotion to deal with because it’s painful and generally comes from a loss of some kind. And, for most of us, it triggers harsh, critical, judgmental self-talk. Is that your default setting, too? But the good news is we can turn it on its head and use it to our advantage. Yes, there are benefits of disappointment!

3 Ways to Bounce Back from Setbacks When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Life Skills, Self-Leadership Skills, Transform Your Life.

You pin your hopes on getting that promotion, being hired for your dream job, or taking a relationship to a strong commitment. You’re nervous because you question whether you’re ready. You’re scared to step out of your comfort zone, but it’s exhilarating to think this could be your future! And then… you get the news you didn’t get it. It feels like you’ve been punched and you can’t breathe. How do you bounce back from setbacks like these?

It takes having a system in place for handling disappointment. It makes sense to plan for a disaster before it happens because once you’re in the middle of it, you won’t be able to think clearly. The same is true of life setbacks. They are going to happen, so if you have a practiced way of handling small setbacks, you’ll be able to handle large setbacks more easily.

Afraid of Disappointing Others? This Insight Will Liberate You!

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Healthy Relationships, Stepping Forward.

We’ve all experienced it — that crushing, heart-wrenching, stomach-churning, bitter sensation when someone disappoints us. Perhaps the pain is even worse when it’s you disappointing others because you’re also disappointing yourself.

When we intensely want something we think about it, dream about it, and make detailed plans for it until we can taste it and see it like it’s already happened. And when these hopes and expectations go unfulfilled, that disappointment makes us bereft, drained and deflated. We feel like such a failure.

It’s no wonder we do our best to avoid putting this emotional pain upon ourselves or others. Too often we make unwise decisions or hold back from stepping forward because we’re driven by this thought —“I don’t want to disappoint anyone.”

Achieve Excellence – Proven Ways to Make Accountability Work for You

Written by Maria Connolly. Posted in Change Your Life, ICF Mentor Coaching, Self-Leadership Skills.

When you think of the word excellence, what images spring to mind? Is it the fine craftsmanship of a superior sailing ship? Or perhaps you think of an influential leader who masterfully brings out the best in the crowds that flock to her. How do people achieve excellence like that?

Excellence is not only for an elite few. Admittedly, some people are predisposed to traits that come readily to them. But no one excels without dedication and consistent effort. Can you upgrade from ‘settling for good enough’ to ‘achieving excellence’? Yes!

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I Am So Disappointed In Myself — What Can I Do About It?

The Unexpected Benefits of Disappointment You Can Use to Your Advantage

3 Ways to Bounce Back from Setbacks When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned

Afraid of Disappointing Others? This Insight Will Liberate You!

Achieve Excellence – Proven Ways to Make Accountability Work for You

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