Yet all that glistens is not gold, as the saying goes. There are inevitable stresses during this time of year. Rather than writing a typical “how to relieve your holiday stress” article, I’m sharing something you really need to hear…
But first…Which of the follow stress triggers really get you down the most? (Please come over to my Facebook Page and let’s share.)
- Is it being busier, trying to get everything done perfectly on a tight schedule?
- Is it feeling trapped by obligations, being pushed beyond what you can physically and emotionally handle?
- Is it spending beyond your budget, thinking you’ll deal with it later, when in reality the bills nag at you, robbing you of joy?
- Is it falling into unhealthy patterns due to your history, family traditions and personal beliefs?
- Is it being thrown together with a family member who brings you pain?
- Is it seeing an empty place where a loved one was last year, but isn’t this year?
- Is it the disruption to your routine that allows little down time that makes you crazy?
- Is it feeling guilty for eating and drinking things you normally wouldn’t?
Your ability to handle all of these stress triggers revolves around one thing…your self-care. And I’m sure you’ve already read plenty of articles of how to deal with holiday stress that tell you to do this and do that. What you really need is permission to take care of yourself – to be told it’s not selfish to nurture your own wellbeing. So let me reassure you…
It’s okay to set limits to what you can do physically and emotionally.
It’s okay to set a budget for what you can spend and then stick to it.
It’s okay to do things differently than everyone else.
It’s okay to start a new family tradition.
It’s okay to schedule alone time to think about how you can make even a slight change in the coming year.
It’s okay to be more deliberate about your choices.
It’s okay to indulge a little.
It’s okay to treat yourself to a massage or a brief getaway to gain some breathing room.
It’s okay to walk away from family squabbles and go for a walk or to the gym.
It’s okay to insist on getting to bed at a reasonable hour.
It’s okay to bring new meaning into your holiday: identifying why and what are you celebrating… family, connection, or spiritual growth.
It’s okay to take time out to do breathing exercises to center and balance yourself when you feel tense.
It’s okay to view friends as family, if your family has let you down.
It’s okay to say, “No! Not this year”.
Didn’t you feel the stress flow away as you read, “it’s okay”? We all need reassurance that we can choose what’s okay for us. In the same manner, we respectfully and lovingly allow others to have the same freedom of choice. As each person calmly explains their point of view, it can promote peace and greater awareness – the very foundation of being merry and being healthy. And that’s what I wish for you. Have a happy holiday season everyone! See you on my Facebook Page.