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Learn to Trust Yourself: 7 Tips to Strengthening Your Self-Confidence

Before you can step forward with confidence, you must learn to trust yourself and not doubt or second-guess yourself. Here are 7 ways to learn to trust yourself more“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” ~ Golda Meir

I don’t trust myself to ___. With what words would you fill in this blank? …make good decisions? …follow through? …just say no? Before you can step forward with confidence, it’s important to learn to trust yourself, to believe you can do it, because it’s easy to get consumed by second-guessing and doubting yourself, which are key reasons for inaction.

Think about it…what leads you to trust another person? Is your trust earned by one grand gesture? No, it’s the consistent, trustworthy moments you experience that build up a pattern of trust. Likewise, each small moment of self-trustworthiness you experience builds a record you can count on.

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15 Lessons to be Learned from Life Challenges in Your Path to Self-Discovery

Every experience in life provides you with invaluable information, if you listen carefully for the lessons to be learned. Here’s how to do it.“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~ Bernice Johnson Reagon

What has life taught you? Have those life lessons made you hold back from experiencing life to the full? Painful experiences can cause us to withdraw from exposing ourselves to that kind of hurt again.  But there is a way to process the hurt and turn it into a stepping stone that leads you to a full, meaningful and rewarding life. 

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How to Develop True Emotional Intimacy between Friends

You can have emotional intimacy between friends, if you open your heart and are willing to be vulnerable.“Real connection and intimacy is like a meal, not a sugar fix.” ~ Kristin Armstrong

Does the idea of being emotionally intimate sound amazing or scary to you? Fear keeps many people distant from others. As a result, they become loners or social butterflies that flit from one encounter to another, collecting acquaintances but no real friendships.

We all need close friends who are there for us through good times and bad. They are the people who love and accept us for who we are. But, for you, how close is close enough? Do you keep people at arm’s length? Or do you embrace them wholeheartedly? Or is your comfort zone somewhere in between?

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To Improve Your Deep Listening Skills, Open Your Heart

If you want to develop deep listening skills, don’t focus solely on listening techniques; you master deep listening only when you open your heart.“Listen with your eyes as well as your ears.” ~ Graham Speechley

You might think that deep listening skills are mainly between your ears and brain. While that’s part of the process, more crucial is what’s going on in your heart — your inner person that’s powered by motives, desires, values and your way of operating in the world. If you’re tired of superficial conversations, read on…

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3 Stages to the Art of Listening: The Amazing Power of Deep Listening

Don’t you hate it when people don’t listen? Deep listening is Stage 3 of the Art of Listening and this is how you can develop deep listening skills.“Listening is being able to be changed by the other person.” ~ Alan Alda

As Linda poured out her feelings during a recent session, she stopped and looked at me expectantly. “Aren’t you going to tell me what you think or tell me how to fix my problem? After all, that’s what everyone else does, when I try to tell how I feel.” I told her, “Number one…I don’t believe you need to be “fixed”. My job is to employ the art of listening so I can help you reflect on your feelings and find their meaning for yourself.”

Her experience illustrates how we fall into the trap of thinking about what we’re going to say next, rather than really give our full attention to what the other person is saying. It’s natural to relate what you’re hearing to your own experiences, however, this can lead to jumping to inaccurate conclusions. It’s important to make a deliberate and mindful effort to understand the other side.

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