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How to Stay Calm under Pressure. It’s Easy When You Practice This…

If you suppress your feelings so that you look calm on the outside, but inside you feel like you’re ready to explode, learn how to stay calm under pressure.

Have you ever tried to calm a room full of excited children waiting for a treat? The more you shush them, the more they wiggle, giggle, and chatter. But if you channel their energy into an engaging activity, they settle down. This is a key takeaway for learning how to stay calm under pressure.

Because our adult emotions work the same way! Trying to suppress anxiety, stress, or frustration is like forcing those excited children to sit still — it’s exhausting and ineffective. Suppressing emotions often leaves you feeling like a powder keg, ready to explode.

Instead of suppressing, a better strategy is to channel your physiological responses, thoughts, and feelings into productive actions. By shifting your mindset from what could go wrong to what could go right, you’ll feel energized rather than overwhelmed — and that energy brings calmness and clarity.

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Understand what’s happening in your body. Stress triggers the “fight or flight” response. Your brain senses a threat and releases hormones that prepare your body for action. But when you can’t physically fight or flee — common in professional and social situations — those stress signals linger, creating tension and overwhelm. As a result, you end up with your brain and body in a feedback loop, freaking out. That’s when you say and do things you regret.

Breathe deeply and slowly. Deep, controlled breathing interrupts this stress cycle, calming your nervous system and helping you regain control.

Label your emotions. Identifying what you’re feeling — “I’m anxious,” “I’m frustrated” — helps shift your brain into logical thinking, allowing you to respond thoughtfully rather than react emotionally. It breaks the mental part of the feedback loop.

Reframe your emotions.  Once you’ve identified your initial emotional response, you can reframe it, changing your perception of the situation. For example, fear can become excitement; frustration can signal desire; and worry can shift to curiosity. By labeling and reframing, you turn discomfort into opportunity. 

Shift your focus outward. When anxiety makes you feel like everyone’s watching you, remember that most people are focused on improving the situation — not judging you. Focusing on how you can contribute redirects nervous energy into productive action. 

Put things into perspective. Stop overthinking and overreacting by asking yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen? Will this matter in five years?”

Leverage logic. Engaging your logical mind allows you to see the bigger picture. This calms anxious thinking, giving you a clearer understanding of what’s really happening. 

Take action. Procrastination fuels anxiety. Taking small, intentional steps forward converts anxious energy into momentum, boosting your sense of control. 

How to Stay Calm Even Under Pressure — Turn It Into A Daily Habit

It takes time and effort, but you can develop the ability to positively look at each situation as an opportunity to turn anxiety into energy and excitement. Like physical training, developing calmness under pressure requires consistent practice. Here are some effective strategies:

  • Practice mindfulness daily. Building calmness is like training for a marathon — you can’t wait until the big event starts. Daily mindfulness strengthens your ability to stay grounded when pressure rises.
  • Increase awareness through deliberate practice. When practicing slow breathing, tune in to your heartbeat, emotions, and physical sensations to expand your self-awareness.
  • Predict your triggers. Identify what situations typically create pressure for you. Knowing what to expect helps you prepare to respond calmly instead of reacting on impulse.
  • Focus on what you can control. Worrying about things you can’t change drains your energy. Redirect that energy toward productive actions that improve the outcome.
    By combining somatic awareness with practical strategies, you’ll develop the inner strength to turn anxiety into calm confidence — empowering you to thrive under pressure.

 “Dream Big, Start Small” Here’s the one thing you can do today.

How to stay calm? The secret lies within a strong understanding of how your mind and body interplay and learning to regulate and harmonize them

How to stay calm? The secret lies within a strong understanding of how your mind and body interplay and learning to regulate and harmonize them. Here’s an effective exercise to finetune your somatic awareness:

Close your eyes and take a few slow, deep breaths.

Scan: Focus your attention on your feet. Notice any sensations — warmth, tingling, tension — and simply observe without judgment. Breathe deeply into that area, imagining the tension softening with each exhale.

Move Upward: Gradually shift your attention upward — your calves, thighs, hips, abdomen, chest, shoulders, arms, neck, and finally your head. Spend a few moments on each area, noticing and breathing.

Name the Sensation: Identify what you feel in your body. For example, “I feel tension in my shoulders,” or “My chest feels tight.” 
Identify the causative mental state. “I’ve been sitting too long.” “That disagreement made me feel insecure.” “I feel unprepared.” “I fear loss or ridicule.”

Release and Reset: As you recognize these sensations and identify their cause, picture releasing tension on each exhale. Restate your intention: “I choose to be calm. There’s nothing I can’t turn into an opportunity.”  Imagine yourself grounding and settling into calmness.

This exercise helps you become aware of your body’s signals so you can address stress before it builds. You’ll be surprised at how often you come up with a solution to a thorny problem by just taking these few moments. I invite you to learn how Somatic Coaching can help you tune into what your body is telling you and how you can give yourself exactly what you need when you need it.

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