Keep Your Commitments to Yourself. It’s The Way to Feel Fully Alive

Keeping commitments — love it or hate it? Perhaps you know someone like Nora? She’s really good at keeping her promises to other people. The kids need a ride to the game…she’s on it! Hubby needs a tool from the hardware store, she’s rushing to get it. Never missing an appointment, she’s known for being dependable, helpful, and loving. But…there’s someone she routinely ignores and mistreats…herself…and she knows it, as her journal entry testifies:

Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern in my life— I’ve become an expert at taking care of everyone else, but I neglect myself!!! I promise myself to slow down, eat better, sleep better, do some things I’ve been wanting to do for ages, but it’s not happening. 

OK, let’s be honest, I’m failing in my commitments to myself!!! It’s as if I’ve put my own needs and desires on an endless waiting list, always pushing them to the back burner while putting everyone else first. After all, that’s what we’re supposed to do, right? But if that’s true, then why do I feel so empty? It tears me up to write this!

I want to grow as a person and I think I could do and be so much more. So I’m ashamed to admit that I’m not honoring the most important commitment of all: the commitment to myself. 

Every time I think of taking time for my own well-being and aspirations, I make excuses, with a new promise whispering, “tomorrow”. 

The truth is, I’m trapped in a cycle of self-neglect. I’ve convinced myself that putting everyone else’s needs first is a noble sacrifice, but deep down, I know I can’t go on this way. It’s killing my own happiness and growth. I yearn to break free from this pattern and start treating MY OWN COMMITMENTS with the same level of importance and dedication I give to others. 

Ok, now what? I can just hear big sister, Eileen, “Nora, get a backbone and keep your commitments to yourself!” Easy for you to say, sis! How am I supposed to go from here to there?!!!

Are you a bit like Nora? I used to be. Every day challenges seem to make it “impossible” to keep your commitments to yourself. But there are also strategies and practices that will empower you to remain fully present, authentic, and actively engaged in every aspect of your life. 

Keep Your Commitments to Yourself: Practices, Beliefs & Strategies

Understanding the Fear Within:

Commitment to self evokes a range of emotions — shame, unworthiness, guilt, and feeling selfish. By recognizing and acknowledging these fears, you can begin to calm them. (My Tea Time Exercise can help.)

Embracing Your Authentic Path:

Before you say, “Yes”, embrace the power of choice and commit to only endeavors that align with your values, bringing you joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose. Embrace your unique qualities, passions, and desires without reservation. 

Balancing Growth and Responsibilities:

It’s important to create a sustainable framework that integrates personal growth practices into your daily life. By carving out dedicated time for reflection, learning, and pursuing your passions, you can harmonize your commitments and obligations.

Unleashing the Power of Self-Reflection:

Introspection is a powerful tool for honoring your commitment to self. Regularly engage in self-exploration to gain a deeper understanding of your desires, strengths, and areas for growth. 

Building a Supportive Network:

Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who share your values and aspirations. Nothing is as good as in-person connections, but you can also seek out online communities filled with people who are on a similar journey that will provide you with support, encouragement, and valuable insights, bolstering your commitment and propelling you forward.

Investing in Personal Development:

When you pay money for something, you’re more likely to follow through. Consider exploring programs, workshops, or even working with a coach. These resources can provide guidance, tools, and accountability, accelerating your growth and helping you overcome any lingering self-doubt.

Cultivating Well-being and Balance:

Personal growth thrives in an environment of balance and well-being. Nurture your physical, mental, and emotional health by engaging in activities that promote balance, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Make conscious choices to prioritize sleep, nutrition, and exercise. Self-care enhances your capacity to be fully present and engaged.

Embracing the Power of Wholehearted Commitment:

Don’t mistake involvement for commitment. Invest yourself in it fully. No halfway, half-hearted attempts. Recognize that you are deserving of your own time, energy, and attention. Believe in yourself. 

Cultivating Mindfulness:

Being fully engaged requires the practice of being fully present in your daily experiences, whether it’s engaging in conversations, hobbies, or daily chores. By embracing the power of the present moment, you cultivate a deeper appreciation for life’s richness and opportunities for growth.

Setting Aligned Intentions and Goals:

Commitment to self flourishes when intentions and goals align with your values and aspirations. Reflect on your deepest desires and set clear, meaningful intentions for each area of your life. Develop baby-step goals that move you forward. By staying true to your intentions, you foster a sense of purpose and motivation to embrace full commitment.

Pursuing Growth and Learning:

A fully engaged life is a continual journey of growth and learning. Embrace new experiences, challenges, and opportunities for expansion. Be open to stepping outside your comfort zone, acquiring new skills, and gaining diverse perspectives. Embrace a growth mindset that creates a life rich in wisdom, resilience, and fulfillment.

Cultivating Meaningful Connections:

Commitment to self is not a solitary endeavor. Foster meaningful connections with others who share your values and uplift your journey. Surround yourself with individuals who support and inspire you. Engage in deep, authentic relationships that foster connection, belonging, and mutual growth. 

Resisting Doubt:

Once you make a commitment to yourself, don’t lose your focus. Make a choice, see it through to completion, and never look back. Don’t allow the what ifs, the should ofs, could ofs creep in and make you doubt yourself. 

When you keep your commitments to yourself it opens the doors to a life of profound fulfillment. Remember, your commitment to self is the catalyst for a life fully lived. My free report, Introduction to Stepping Forward will give you 7 tools that work.

Thank you for the photo Dakota Corbin