Maria Connolly, LPC
Predictability is safe. Some say it’s boring. Being spontaneous may be scary or thrilling. Predictability or spontaneity — which makes you feel most alive? Or do you need both?
When life is overwhelming, predictability gives stability like an anchor that keeps you from totally losing it. It creates calm in a world of chaos. At times like these, you’re tapping into the benefits of predictability:
Ignoring, numbing, or fighting against your feelings isn’t the answer. When you have an internal conflict, the discomfort you feel is a signal that something is important and you need to pay attention! You can make friends with your discomfort, resolve internal conflicts and restore inner peace. Let me share my secret for how I do it…
Part of you wants to, part of you doesn’t — so you turn an opportunity down because it feels safer…but you then regret that decision. Learn why you experience feelings like these and how Parts Integration Techniques can help you create internal harmony and balance so you never miss out on an opportunity again!
Too often we’re plagued by self-sabotaging behavior. For instance, you want to lose weight but you keep turning to that carton of chocolate ice cream for comfort. Or you want to be a successful manager, but you rub people the wrong way, or unwittingly create drama so you’re always putting out fires.
Self-sabotaging behavior occurs when different “parts” of your self are conflicted. You want success, but a Part of you doesn’t believe you deserve it. You want to be healthy and fit, but a Part of you self-medicates unhealed emotional wounds with comfort food.
Feeling overwhelmed is a common experience in today’s fast-paced world. The good news is that there are effective strategies to manage this feeling and shift our mindset towards a richer, fuller life. Keep this in mind when learning how to overcome overwhelm: it’s a journey to be enjoyed, not a search for a quick fix that lets you keep doing what you’ve been doing. And it involves taking back your power…
“They really lived.” This iconic line from the movie, Secondhand Lions, has caused many to ask, “Am I just going through the motions, or am I really living?” If you’ve experienced this, then declaring your embodied purpose can energize you and make you feel vibrantly alive.
When you’re born, your life is an open book filled with empty pages waiting to be written upon. We have the privilege and responsibility to write our unique story. Yes, our DNA and external forces, like our parents or culture, provide a structure on which we build our story. But it’s up to us to make sense of it and choose to write new chapters.